With Let Love Last you can perfectly start on your own. After all, the first step is learning what’s important when choosing a life partner.
There are five specific aspects you need to pay attention to.
Read them on your own so you can fall in love with your heart as well as your head. Or consider them together with your partner and lay the foundations for a long and happy relationship.
Do I know how love works?
Love for a partner is not a feeling that comes out of nowhere. It grows in several stages, and continues to evolve throughout your life.
People who are unfamiliar with the growth process of love sometimes speak of love too soon. In addition, love is sometimes confused with a crush, friendship or even compassion. In these cases, choosing a partner is not based on a solid foundation, and it is likely that the partners will split up after a while.
Am I happy with who I am?
A healthy relationship is balanced: both partners are on an equal footing and equally strong.
If you’re not happy with who you are, you run the risk of choosing (or attracting) a partner from a position of vulnerability. This imbalance is not sustainable in the long run, and in some cases it may even result in destructive situations.
Of course, confronting your emotional baggage can be scary. However, getting your own house in order is necessary if you want to be able to make the right choice of partner.
Am I able to make a conscious and sensible choice?
A choice isn’t really a choice unless you realize what choosing is: selecting one option means you don’t get the other option. You can only choose a partner consciously if you know why you choose that person. And that choice only makes sense if you first consider whether your life’s projects are compatible.
A long and happy relationship requires you to have in-depth discussions about topics such as money, work, leisure, children, outlook on life and dreams for the future – both before and after committing yourself to a relationship.
Do I have realistic expectations?
If you expect life to be a perfect fairy tale, you're bound to be disappointed. One day, the infatuation will be over, and the object of your love will suddenly appear less appealing and attractive. You will find yourselves stuck in a rut, and we all know that routine is detrimental to a relationship. Or is it?
Think again! Routine in a relationship is normal and good: the implied certainty of your partner’s love makes it possible to build a life together.
Unfortunately, society (and in particular the media) pays almost exclusive attention to the exciting aspect of love. As a result, many people decide their partner is not Mr. or Ms. Right because they get into a routine. They start all over again, and sooner or later their new relationship also gets stuck in a routine.
Do I want this relationship to succeed?
It is easy to love someone when everything is going well. Continuing to love that person when you’re going through a rough patch is less easy.
Partners who agree in advance that they will do everything it takes to get their relationship through difficult times are in a much stronger position when these difficult times actually arrive.
Even more so if they make use of the tactics from Step 3 of the Let Love Last method.