Divorce is not always the answer
However well a relationship started off, however well the intentions may be on the part of the partners: tensions are bound to arise sooner or later.
This is perfectly normal, and nothing to be afraid of – at least if you know how to deal with tensions in your relationship.
However, partners often do not take action (in time) because they don’t know what to do in these situations.
They just carry on, sometimes in desperation, until separating seems the only way out.
Of course, it's no disgrace to get a divorce, but it is usually a great pity. And not easy for those involved.
The third step of the Let Love Last method is therefore entirely focused on difficult times in a relationship. If you take appropriate and timely action, our method will enable you to overcome virtually any problem.
A tailor-made solution
Problems in a relationship can be very complex. So complex, in fact, that people are sometimes completely thrown off balance.
That’s why Let Love Last keeps it simple: we help you ask relevant questions in the right order. This will bring rest to your heart and give you peace of mind.
The first question is the same for everyone: To what extent are you committed to your partner? Your answer to this question will determine our approach when looking for a solution.
The next step entirely depends on your story: every relationship is different, and every situation requires a personalized approach.
Venting
Often, both partners feel something is lacking in their relationship, but they just don’t seem to be able to discuss the issue calmly and openly.
That’s why Let Love Last has developed the venting talks concept which explains to partners step by step how to have a conversation that really makes a difference, as both partners listen sincerely and are heard.
It’s not very difficult; all you need is some explanation.
Want the complete manual? You can find it in this book.
Hitting the pause button
In some situations, feelings are running so high that it is simply impossible to have a conversation. If so, it’s best not to force things and to put your relationship on hold: the partners allow each other in turns to take a break from family life for a short while.
Breaking everyday habits has a relaxing and healing effect, while consciously creating some distance helps to put tensions and annoyance in a different perspective.
At the end of the pause in their relationship, the partners have their first real venting talk, which will not just take place in a better atmosphere, but will probably address the essential elements much more as well.
Tips and advice on how to deal with a pause in a relationship in practice can be found in this book.
Remediation
Venting and taking a pause are great tactics which partners can try out on their own to save their relationship.
But sometimes the partners need help. In that case, it’s advisable to call in an expert who has an outsider's perspective, provides advice and monitors the evolution over a period of time.
In the beginning, the partners may feel a little embarrassed, but it’s absolutely worthwhile: counseling sheds light on possible options, and makes it clear what each option means in practice for each partner. This enables the partners to decide serenely – ideally with their hearts and minds...